A Narcissistic Mother’s Children.

How narcissistic mothers damage their children’s health.

Write Mind Matters
7 min readFeb 15, 2022
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Why do narcissistic mother’s have children who are either very successful or struggle physically and emotionally throughout their lives?

Self-entitlement, a lack of empathy, and extreme emotions aren’t safe for children, it creates an environment of abuse and neglect. Children need stable and loving parents. Narcissistic parents put themselves first no matter how badly it affects their children.

“Narcissistic parents believe they own their children. Whatever they do for the child is always a sacrifice, so there is always a debt to pay.” — Randi Fine.

Narcissism is a healthy trait, it can drive us to achieve, give us the confidence to take on criticism confidently, and protect us from those who might take advantage. Narcissism is a personality disorder when the trait becomes all-encompassing and it adversely affects the health and well-being of the narcissist and the people around them.

Narcissistic mothers get a bad rap compared to their male counterparts. This is surprising considering more men than women are understood to have narcissism, though typically mothers spend more time with their children so tend to have the greatest influence on their child’s development.

“Despite the widely held belief that men are more narcissistic than women, there has been no systematic review to establish the magnitude, variability across measures and settings, and stability over time of this gender difference.” — Emily Grijalva et al.

Narcissistic Mothers.

Mothers are normally the first person we connect with when we enter the world. Our physiological, cognitive, and emotional development is dependent upon our mother’s ability to foster that growth. A child’s view of motherhood and nurturing is distorted with a narcissistic mother because women with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can not put anyone else but themselves first.

Mothers are meant to be the person we go to when we need empathy, guidance, and nurturing…



Write Mind Matters

BA(psych), GradDipPsych(student), DipHlthSc(NatNut)|Parenting, personality disorders & trauma.