The Narcissist’s Smear Campaign.

How the smear campaign can work in your favour.

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I found the smear campaign the most painful tactic. Though I knew it had been happening for some time, in fact, throughout the relationship, the seriousness of it all didn’t affect me till I had to go to family court to protect my children.

A smear campaign is a deliberate action by a person or group of people to smear another person’s reputation. It’s more than a bit of gossip or a quiet chat with a friend about problems you had in a relationship. The smear is a full-on campaign of lies, twisted truths, exaggerations, and projections that go far beyond a few people.

“He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.”

― Martin Luther King Jr.

I did all the wrong things when it came to responding to the smear campaign; I talked about it to the wrong people, listened to the wrong people, and most of all, I let it upset me. The smear campaign starts quite subtle; they’ll drop hints or make suggestions to others just enough to cause suspicion, then when the victim’s peace of mind is hanging on a thread, they let rip and discredit the person everywhere and at every opportunity.

So, how could a smear campaign possibly work in your favour?

1. In family court, it’s gold! As a narcissistic abuse victim, you're devalued to the point you can’t trust yourself, let alone anybody else; it’s a struggle to open up about what happened. In the meantime, the narcissist and his flying monkeys are on a roll; they feel empowered by harming you and are so high on smug that they let the cat out of the bag. The narcissist and flying monkeys that I knew were very open about having “family meetings” and painfully, but fortunately, these meetings lead to excessive criticism; they practically wrote a book. Family Court is not interested in false accusations and gossip. It does not look good when litigants are too busy attacking to consider solutions.