Short read.
To The Parents Who Legally Protect Their Children.
Single parenting when the other parent needs supervision.
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I want to send a shout out and big air hug to all the parents who do it on their own because the other parent has to be supervised. I want to tell you that you’re doing the right thing for your child, no matter who tells you otherwise.
“No one other than your children can declare you a bad parent.” — L. C. Kimsey.
Fortunately, we have a system that protects children and provides supervision services for parents who can’t take care of their children but still choose to remain in their lives.
In some instances, supervision re-establishes a child’s relationship with an estranged parent. Other times a parent might have been violent or had substance abuse issues and needs supervision until specified rehabilitation goals are achieved.
“The true character of a society is in how it treats its children” — Nelson Mandela.
Sadly, some parents that require supervision opt-out of visits and use the orders as weapons against the other parent and children. The supervised parent will accuse the other parent of keeping them from the children, denying facts that led to supervision.
Such supervised parents effectively use the children to get other people to feel sorry for them rather than putting in the time and effort to parent.
Normally, supervised parents can parent their children unsupervised once they organise and attend visits consistently.
Orders that legally prevent a parent from spending time with their children without supervision are taken very seriously. It takes considerable time and effort to work through the facts and take such drastic action. Nonetheless, those who get supervision rarely accept it, which can cause difficulties for the parent trying to raise the children on their own.
Single parenting is challenging in the first place. There’s no one else as invested in this little person as you are, and we question ourselves about every decision. The supervised parent relinquished that right and duty; it's all yours now.
The parent who doesn’t need supervising is often in recovery from coping with the other parent. It's doubtful that a parent who needs supervision wasn’t hard work, one way or another. You’re on edge during the entire court process, praying the courts don’t put your children in a worse position than they had already been in to get there in the first place.
People can go through many ups and downs in life, and sometimes downs happen right when you need to be at the top of your game — when you become a parent.
We can’t control other people or situations, but we can control how we respond to them.
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