Opinion.

We Should Care About What Other People Think Of Us.

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You can not build strong and lasting relationships by going around not giving a damn what people think of you, there has to be a level of respect that says I do care about what you have to say and how I make you feel.

“One of the sincerest forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” — Bryant H. McGill.

Let’s face it, some people who don’t worry about what other people think, should. Criminals should worry about what judges think. Alcoholic, abusive, or neglectful parents need to worry about what their kids think. I could go on, it’s not a phrase that suits a lot of situations.

“Don’t worry what other people think of you” is not letting others' opinions, or even the opinions you’re imagining, prevent you from being you, achieving your goals, and living your best life.

A lot of bad decisions come from not caring what other people think. Deciding to lie, blame, manipulate, control, and abuse other people is intentional and harmful; and caring about what others think could prevent such harm, along with the personal and social consequences.

As fabulous as I’m sure you are, there’s a good chance you’re not at the centre of everyone’s mind.

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people think of you if you realized how seldom they do” — Eleanor Roosevelt.

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The phrase justifies narcissism by implying that other people don’t factor into our existence.

Phrases and quotes are simplifications, yes it's minus the details, but some people are simple enough not to see the simplification and go around thinking, “Oh, I don’t care what other people think of me, so I’m going to be an outright cunt.”

Enter the narcissist.

Narcissists do care what other people think, of them. Narcissists care so much about what other people think that they live in a mindset where they exist solely through the thoughts of others. That’s so long as the thoughts of others match their own perspective.

Narcissists adjust their thoughts and actions to suit whoever they’re trying to impress (use as supply) so much that they paint a new face every time, layer upon layer of stories that unfold from a single perspective. It’s that inability to truly understand the perspective of others that prevents them from maintaining healthy long-term relationships.

Imagine caring so much about what other people think of you that you effectively stop caring about people.

Thanks for reading.❤

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