Mind Body Spirit Health.
Why Hope & Seeking Happiness Will Cause You More Grief.
You can’t feel joy in seeking and hoping.
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Close your eyes for a second and think back to a moment when you were on your own and felt true joy, maybe you were in nature or home after a time away, I feel it all day, but especially in the mornings and whenever I’m with my children and we’re just flowing.
The point is to find joy in something that doesn’t attach itself to anyone or anything, it simply is. Once you’ve got a good hold of that feeling, relax as you exhale (shoulders relaxed and stomach deflating), and breathe in feelings of joy on the inhale (shoulders relaxed and stomach inflating).
Now, mindfully do the same with feelings of hope and seeking happiness, can you feel how joy doesn’t connect itself to any lacking? Did you notice it takes more work to muster hope and seeking?
Are you missing out on all the joys of life dragging around baggage? This doesn’t count if you’ve been through recent trauma, the only way you can prevent adding it to an already heavy load, is to process that trauma.
Faith is the opposite of hope in the same way that joy is the opposite of fear, one takes effort, while the other just is exactly as it is.
I spent a short time with some quite depressing people in the beginning of the year, one was the narcissist with whom I have two children, and the other was his new friend.
It’s come to my attention, after a few months of peace, that what was missing in these two, compared to the people I’m accustomed to being around, was joy and faith.
My friends and family are a lot of fun, even the shy ones are edgy, and when things get serious, we’re great at shining the light on dark situations. So, being around people who constantly talk about their pasts, their miseries, or other people, was like having straws attached to my brain.
The narcissist is learning about positivity, which comes off negatively, as it always does from people who discover something new and don’t realize it’s not new or interesting to everyone else. I’ve never heard a genuinely positive person talking about being positive, they’re just living that life.
Telling people to be positive or that you’re being positive is negative, it’s basically pointing to a space of initial negativity. Still not sure why this isn’t obvious to everyone.
The narcissist’s friend is going through his prove himself phase, I hope it’s a phase because bugger that for a personality, puffing his shoulders, and repeating his hero and victim stories. This is exactly how the narcissist acts behind closed doors, I guess his friend is still learning ‘the way’.
They both ended up disrespecting my family and I, so were quickly erased from my zone, but I did learn a lot about how fortunate we are not to know that kind of darkness, there truly is a degree of muck that people like that leave behind.
I like to think, and as science suggests, that we’re all basically the same, all connected, and that no one individual is any more superior or inferior to another. So, how do you make sense of people who actively choose to harm others and continue to lead dark and miserable lives?
Personally, I wish them the best and forget about them, remembering the lessons. I don’t think they’re less than me, I just know they’re not best for me.
Emit so much joy that lies and disrespect have no choice but to back off.💚
