Psychology.
Why Narcissistic Relationships Are Not Toxic - They’re Abusive!
The minimization and victim blaming control tactics.
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Whenever I hear a woman is being blamed for abuse, I make this face:
One has to assume the person speaking is unaware of the vast knowledge bank of intimate partner violence that clearly shows male abusers first and most wasted coercion control tactic is BLAME, next to DENIAL!
A male victim is more likely to behave similarly to the female victim, living in utter and complete shame, denial they’re being abused, and far too busy trying to figure out how to fix what they didn’t know was broken to even notice their abuser is out there “playing the victim!”
Aside from blatant gender politics and gender-based violence, people who are abusive in relationships use coercive control to strip away the essence of the person they promised to love.
Toxicity is what it sounds like, it’s a couple of happy little parts that don’t compound well, like maybe bourbon and water as opposed to bourbon and cola, depending on taste.
While an abusive part is actively trying to completely remove the victim part, like you’re water in a glass they’re proactively smashing.
Victim blaming and minimization is a social control tactic that we are all participating in, we are all victims of political and social controls that prevent us from making a difference in matters that could save lives, and we’re all okay with it because, “we’re all okay with it!?”
Once you’ve met a narcissist or sociopath, it’s likely you’ve been put through the phases:
Assuming you’ve also mastered ignoring the hoovering, you may even have been put through the mental health, social welfare, and court systems, thanks to the public nuisance and persistence of a narcissist without enough flying monkeys or whose current victim is figuring out what they’ve got themselves into!
If a victim of narcissistic abuse hasn’t already been reported, and hasn’t’ noticed the slow and deliberate degradation of who they once were, they can stay stuck in that cycle for a lifetime.
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